Hair-you gotta love it. A horse can have a bad hair and still look amazing-unlike me. Horses with long manes and tail are adored by all. But HOW do you grow that long mane and tail?
I get asked often how I keep my horse’s manes and tails white, long, and strong. I’ve helped some horses grow fabulous manes and tails. And this is how I do it!
The more I travel, the more I hear, “But when I was a girl I would get on bareback with a halter and trot, and lope, and do all kinds of crazy things. I was never afraid! So why am I so full of fear now? If only I were younger….”
Have you said those words? Have you thought them? Have you ever wondered if you’re just too old to have a horse? Something happened to me when I turned 40. No, I didn’t wake up one day and decide I was “over the hill”. Perhaps it’s been in the days, weeks, and months since that special birthday that I’ve realized there are certain things with a horse(s) that I no longer wish to do. I suppose, if I’m being honest, there is some under lying fear there, much like the fear you might have. My body doesn’t bounce anymore-it goes SPLAT. And it hurts. And it doesn’t heal as quickly as it used to either. Perhaps it’s that I have small children and I wonder what would happen to them if something happened to me or how their lives would change if I were seriously injured. I’ve never claimed to be “Wonder Horse-Woman”. I’m starting to think the title “Horse Whisperer” is a little more my speed and within my comfort zone. How about you? Maybe you are older than I am in years, but let me assure you, I understand how it feels to wish I were younger.
I can’t imagine my life without a horse. It’s that simple. And I really can’t even begin to think about my life without one when my kids are gone. I can certainly see how a horse is the perfect reason to get out of bed. Horses keep us active and keep us going outside! They listen to us complain, sing, and dream. Horses offer a peace that is seldom found anywhere else. No matter what our age, horses offer us the ability to STAY young, even we decide there are certain risks we can no longer take with them. While I’m sure I won’t want to start colts in my 40’s or 50’s, I WILL continue to get out of bed and feed them, and muck their stalls, and ride them, and haul them, and…. the list goes on. And when I’m too old to ride, I will still have one for a best friend. There are so many physical and mental health benefits to having a horse, I’d say you’re never too old to have one. (or two!)
How old are you? How many horses do you have? What do you do with them? I’d love to hear from you!
I can close my eyes and recall standing in the sun with my forehead on his forehead. We just stood together and breathed. I wasn’t doing anything but standing there soaking in the sound of him breathing and feeling his breath on my hands as I cupped his soft muzzle. In that moment I knew I was forever “horse crazy”-although I had suspected it a number of times before. I knew that I could never live another day without a horse.
Have you let a horse breath on your heart?
I am a sucker for a good, sappy, mushy, horse story. My favorite horse movie of all time is Seabiscuit. Perhaps it’s because I can relate to the horse most. A horse with so much heart, a horse that wanted to please, yet he got skipped over. Someone finally gave him a chance, and though he was small, his heart was bigger and he set records, won races, and made history.
Can you relate too? Have you been skipped over? Have you been told that you aren’t good enough? Do you have a growing passion and desire to obtain a goal, but the right person hasn’t come along yet to give you the chance?
Friends, I have felt all those things. And I’m here today to tell you that God has a plan for you! Jeremiah 29:11 tells us; “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I know this scripture is true because I live it. God also tells us that “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9. It doesn’t matter if you are a little “banged” up. God will forgive you. He has plans for you! Plans to give you hope and future!
Today, I’d like to encourage you to know that there is a God that is so much bigger than your problems or your past. It doesn’t matter if you are a little banged up…..Trust me. I know…….
It’s a New Year! Are you ready? As 2012 comes to a close, I thank God for all he’s done for me, all he’s given me, for the doors that he closed, and the ones that he opened. I am excited about 2013 and hope you are too!
In the excitement of the New Year, Reins For Renewal is putting together a schedule of Women’s Events, Expo’s, Clinics, and Online Coaching Classes! If you’d like to host a Clinic or a Women’s Event please contact Lisa! firstname.lastname@example.org
Check out the new schedule at: www.reinsforrenewal.com
Do you have a passion for horses? Do you like to get together with other women and share experiences, learn, and make new friends? If you answered YES, then the Women’s Equine Seminar is the place to be! Come join me November 10 in Hutchinson, KS to be empowered, encouraged, connect, and laugh! It’s going to be great!
Who do you trust?
This quote is so true on so many levels!
We could easily apply this to our personal lives, our spiritual lives, but today I am going to apply it to my “horsey” life.
I bought my 2-year-old when he was a weanling. I spend two years building a trusting relationship with him and being careful to make sure that, as much as I had fallen in love with him, there was respect between us. I feel like it’s impossible to build trust if there is no respect. (that goes for our personal lives too!)
Today I rode my colt down the road, through the fields and up and down the ditches. We went about 3 miles. He was absolutely perfect. He didn’t spook at the running rabbits, the pile of old farm equipment, the pumping irrigation systems, the pickups coming down the road, the dog that had to follow us….nothing. I know that this behavior is a result of the trust we have built with each other. Does this mean he will never spook and always be “perfect”? NO! But I know that because I have taken the time to build a relationship with him, I am in a better position to help him when does get scared!
That said, I also know that it would take a matter of seconds to damage the trust that I have built with my colt! If my temper gets the best of me, if I get impatient, expect too much, or put him in a situation he’s not ready for, I am jeopardizing the trust we have built. It could take several days, weeks, or months to rebuild the trust my colt has in me if I would ever make a bad decision. I must be mindful of this each and every time I get on him!
Does your horse trust you? Do you trust him? You have to believe and trust in him if you expect him to believe in and trust you.
It’s the 4th of July! A day of celebration and fireworks. A day to be thankful for the freedom we enjoy everyday and to thank the soliders for all they do to secure our freedom. I saw this and loved it….hope you enjoy it too! Happy 4th of July!
Have you ever just felt “lost”? Like you know you are here for a reason, but can’t quite figure it out? I’ve been there….more than once. I think it’s a woman thing. We tend to have no sense of direction and are pulled in many different directions! When I start to feel lost, I have to remember where I’m from and just exactly who I am…..
“Thank you Lord for calling me by name and having a plan for my life. Your plans are better than anything I could think of or imagine.”
So glad to be called “Mine” by the Most High……
Sometimes I feel like an outcast. Sometimes I just don’t fit in. A woman in her jeans, boots, and spurs doesn’t really seem like the type of person most people approach. And when your littered with hay, horse hair and pine shavings, it’s even worse! Suddenly you are the “wierd” one. They just don’t understand…..
However, if you are one of the few women that ride, muck stalls, feed hay, and are often littered with horse hair, you understand. And that understanding is something SO deep and some how “we” crave that understanding.
I have found that while most people do not understand, my heavenly Father does. And on days when I feel like an outcast and I simply don’t fit in, all I have to do is open my Bible. The Man upstairs created me this way. He chose me to give this wonderful gift to, and I am so glad he did!
Do you understand?
I went into the Dr. for a check up. When the nurse asked me, “Do you excercise?” I replied with a smile, “I try to ride 4 horses a day, feed, and muck stalls on occasion.” To which she answered, “Well, that doesn’t really count for you, it mainly just counts for the horses.” My jaw hit the floor! Was she serious? I was a bit offended! So I set out on a quest to prove that the horses in my life provide much excercise, and if I’d quit drinking Pepsi, probably weight loss too!
Here’s a chart to prove it!
So there you have it! All it takes is a little FUN time with your horse and you will be burning calories, getting fit, and losing weight! Guess I’ll be doing a lot of loping! (And sending a copy of this chart to the nurse I saw!)
How about you? What’s your favorite Calorie Burning Equine Activity? Leave your comment below!~Thanks!
As a young girl, growing up on a farm, it wasn’t Barbie dolls I played with, it was horses. Plastic & ceramic horses of all sizes and colors. Some were given to me by my grandfather; others were given to me as Christmas or birthday gifts. Nevertheless, at a very young age horses captured my mind, my heart, and my soul.
I think it’s in your blood. Horses. I know many women who dreamt about horses as a child, and still dreams about them as an adult. Perhaps you’re a woman who has been in love with horses for years, but have never had the privilege of owning one. Maybe you’re a woman whose best friend is your horse. Maybe you’re a woman who grew up with horses, raised your children, and would now like to own a horse again. Maybe you’re a woman like me who knows that life without horses would be no life at all. All the blood, sweat, and tears of life seem worth it when you have a horse to love, to hug, and to cry with.
In her book, If I Had A Horse How Different Life Would Be, Melissa Sovey-Nelson writes; “There is always a reason a horse appears in a woman’s life. It is no accident when they come to us, if only in our dreams. If our hearts fill with longing thinking of them, they carry a potent message. Horses may enter our lives for a short time or be present throughout. However they make a presence, their impact is permanent. Carrying us at crossroads, assisting us with burdens, empowering us with sensations of flight and freedom, they often catch us off guard with the possibility of new horizons and secret gates to our souls that need healing.”
Sound familiar? Can you relate? There is a tingle that runs up and down your spine when you think of the quote above, because you know it’s true. Horses empower women like nothing else can. Over the years, I have found that women relate to horses differently than men do. We require different things from our horses, and mainly have them to meet an emotional need. A woman looks at her horse and he represents all the things to her that she wants to be; strong, beautiful, sure, confident, free, and content. Horses bring emotions and dreams to women that only they can understand. Horses live in the present moment, while women are constantly trying to figure out what is happening today, tomorrow, next week and next month. When a woman is with her horse, she is free to live one moment at a time. She is allowed to be herself, because her horse doesn’t care what she looks like, or how she is dressed. A horse only requires us to be real!
While women tend to make very emotional connections with a horse, a woman must also remember to use the God-given knowledge she has to make good choices for herself and her horse. Women are not as strong or as physical as men, thus we must use our brains and instinct to guide us with our horses. As a woman who owns and shows performance horses, I find the middle ground a bit tough at times. It’s so easy to fall in love with the horse and excuse bad behavior or be soft when I need to be firm. Women are given a nurturing desire by God, and at times, we tend to want to nurture too much. It becomes difficult for us to be firm. We get caught up in the “riding off in the sunset” dream and forget that our friend weighs 1000+ lbs and has a mind and emotions of his own. We must remember that in firmness there is also love and leadership. (Ever heard of “Tough Love”?) Horses look for leadership, and if leadership is not your strong suit, your horse will soon teach you that you need to be in charge. Firm, yet fair. When women find an inner strength to communicate firmness with fairness, it gives a woman confidence and a desire to pursue the partnership with her horse thus fulfilling her dreams about her horse. Making the dream a reality is work. It’s an everyday task. When we keep in mind that whenever we handle our horses we are teaching them SOMETHING (good or bad), we start to pay more attention to the way we communicate with our partner. All women want a “relationship” with their horse. However, we tend to forget that a relationship is two sided and that the horse should be responsible for his half of the relationship! While our horses make our dreams come true and give us warm-fuzzies, it’s our responsibility to create a two sided relationship and learn to be firm and fair.
I am not the only woman to love a horse. I believe that God has blessed me with the horses I have and I know that he has used them to teach me, reach me, and heal me. My horses have made me the person I am today and I will forever be grateful. It’s been a quite a road, but I am thankful for the journey I am on, and that God has allowed me to have a life with those horses I dreamt about as a little girl.
I saw this on Facebook and LOVED it! Hope you enjoy it!
“When I Am An Old Horsewoman”
When I am an old horsewoman, I shall wear turquoise and diamonds, And a straw hat that doesn’t suit me, And I shall spend my social security on white wine and carrots, And sit in my alleyway of my barn and listen to my horses breathe. I will sneak out in the middle of a summer night and ride the old palomino gelding, across the moonstruck meadow if my old bones will allow. And when people come to call, I will smile and nod as I walk past the gardens to the barn and show instead the flowers growing, inside stalls fresh-lined with straw. I will shovel and sweat and wear hay in my hair as if it were a jewel. And I will be an embarrassment to ALL who will not yet have found the peace in being free to have a horse as a best friend. A friend who waits at midnight hour with muzzle and nicker and patient eyes for the kind of woman I will be when I am old. ~Author Unknown
What will you be doing when you are an Old Horsewoman?
Would you consider yourself a “girly-girl”? Do you wear jeans & boots more than any other clothing & shoes in your closet? Would you agree with me when I say a girl can dress up any skirt or dress with the right pair of boots? I would consider myself a bit of a “girly-girl” but I am more comfortable in jeans and boots than anything else in my closet. I like boots! Ask my husband. I am also into bigger earrings right now, big rings, and chunky jewelry. My haircut is far from a “cowgirl” cut, but it’s me….short & sassy!
Image is everywhere! Society has helped us create a warped sense of who we are or aren’t based on how we look and how we dress. It’s hard to be unique in a world that criticizes genuine uniqueness. But God created each of us to be his own unique creation. He created us to be his daughter, his child. When we look in the mirror and complain about what we see, we insult the very God that created us!
1 Peter 3:3-4 tells us; “It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from within you-the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that will never be destroyed and is very precious to God.
When I read this scripture, I think not only of how women work so hard to look beautiful, but I also think of where we miss what true beauty is. While I know that God wants us to take care of ourselves (eat healthy, excercise, rest, and YES, I love my MaryKay!), I also feel like he wants us to work hard on the inside too. Outward beauty means nothing if our heart is ugly. True beauty is found in a heart that rests secure in God’s love. When our heart is in the right place with God, the other things in our lives make more sense. Suddenly people are attracted to the inner beauty and the uniqueness that God created in us. When our inside is confident in Christ, we ooze a confidence that God provides-not the world.
As a woman who deals with horses on a daily basis, I am amazed at how my “girly-girl” self-no matter what I look like on the outside-communicates with the horses around me. When my heart is right with God, so is my relationship with my horse. (and those around me!) I love how my horses don’t care what I look like, what I’m wearing, or what I smell like! They only care-like God-about where my heart is.